1. Is it true?
I believe so. You get to know the other person so well, it may become boring or routine. Also, the other might become unattractive over time.

2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No.

3. How do you react when you think that thought?
Afraid of the day it does. I see little signs and I think: "Oh no! It is already happening!" I see it as inevitable.

It makes me sad. Hopeless. Depressed. There is nothing I can do. I feel like a victim. Passive.

With the thought: SADNESS

4. Who would you be without the thought?
I would be excited about what we have. I would not project anything different into the future. I would be happy and joyful right here, right now. I would be lighter. Maybe more attractive sexually?

Turnarounds:
Sexual attraction does not fade over time.
- Well, reality is that sexual attraction has been growing over time in this relationship.
- When I look at my former relationships I can see how my thoughts about the man has let my sexual attraction for them die. Sexual un-attraction was just a symptom of how my unattractive thoughts about my partner showed up. That seems pretty clear right now.
- I have experienced that something may be true for the whole world – and that doesn’t mean it would be true for me.

Sexual attraction grows over time.
- Certainly true for this relationship!!
- The more I get to know the other person, the more comfortable I feel with him. I open up to other exciting things to do…
- When I look at my thoughts that would make my partner or being with him unattractive, the more I open any flood gates that would keep me from fully embracing him – and being all excited about him. Attractive thoughts – attractive man – sexual attraction. I think that’s how it works.