He should realize that it will not happen
1. Is it true?
Yes. Evidence is mounting that it was a lie. He can’t get those characters!
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
He really, really wants it. So, no.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
Annoyed. I want to knock on his forehead saying: Don’t you get it??! If it IS a lie then no matter what you do, the characters aren’t in the game. The programers didn’t put them in the game."
I actually get angry. I want to jump up and down and scream: No matter what you do, if the programers didn’t put the characters in there, they won’t be there!! §$%&!
I feel my energy draining. I feel like Rumpelstilzchen, angrily jumping up and down. I get impatient.
4. Who would you be without the thought?
I would relax. I would take it lightly. I would see how he really wants these characters. I would see the beauty in it. What amazing determination. No matter how much evidence to the contrary, he keeps believing. He doesn’t give up.
I would also realize that I don’t have to keep doing the search for him. I could say no. For now. I could lovingly acknowledge that he still wants to find a way, and that I am not available to help in this moment or need a break for an hour.
Mmh, yeah, that feels much better.
Turnarounds:
He should not realize that it won’t happen.
- Not until he does. (and he did eventually)
- Because the problem wasn’t that he didn’t get it but that I made that mean that I have to keep on helping him until he gets it. 
Big difference!
- Because he really wanted those characters. It’s only in his integrity to keep on believing.
I should realize that it won’t happen.
- Yeah, in the moment that I think that he should realize it, I should realize that he won’t realize. (And can I do that?)
- Where do I keep on believing something even though evidence for the contrary is mounting? What do I not want to give up believing?
- He (or anybody for that matter) will never be the child I imagine he would be IF… Oh, you sweet stories. How hard is it to let go of you…
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How many times should I realize that it won’t happen, but I don’t? How many times do I try to impose my will on reality? How many times do I do the same thing over again, expecting a different result? The answer is, tens of thousands. Maybe hundreds of thousands, if not millions. After all, I did it that way for a whole lifetime before I found Inquiry. I can really relate to W here. My beliefs-over-reality are just a touch more sophisticated than his (I like to think).
Ahh Nany, that reminds me of something Katie often refers to. Her pick-up-your-socks religion. She would tell her kids every day, and every day again the kids didn’t pick up their socks.
It’s like how many times does it take until we "get it".
Since then I really found the beauty in him BELIEVING. I often see how I with the slightest negative information (like me reading that this hasn’t been done before or it can’t be done), let go off it and just realize that it won’t happen or won’t work. He on the other hand has this amazing persistence when it comes to something that he is interested in and really wants. It takes more that just a few statements from resources for him to give up an idea.