1. Is that true?
My inlay that had cost a fortune came out after only 3 years. Yes, bad work! I got screwed!
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
I really do believe so. Well, I can’t remember exactly what they had promised but I do remember what the dentist said about their track record. They had done x amount of inlays and tiny x amount came back or something. Ok, I don’t remember exactly. I don’t remember whether they were actually promising me 10 year with a 100 %. Ok, I can’t know absolutely that they did a bad job. But boy, a big part of me does believe it!
I feel screwed. I see myself as a victim. Someone worth less. They did well with all the other people, so they must have cared less about me. Yeah, I tell myself that they didn’t respect me or that weren’t worried that I would come back and fight or sue or badmouth them. I mentally attack the dentist. My mind goes to all the times dental work was bad and how much bad luck I’ve had with dental work. I see all the money I’ve invested so far and it’s never paid off.
I wouldn’t take it so personal. Oh boy! What a difference. Yeah, I wouldn’t make it about me and attach all this meanting to it. It’d be a tooth that needs work. I would admit that I haven’t spent any money on my teeth for a few years, that I have put off necessary dental work for a long time without any major consequences!! Wow, what a difference not taking it personal. I feel a lot better.
Turnarounds
They didn’t do a bad job/ They did a bad job.
How can I KNOW what job they did and whether/what other factors influence die longivity and quality of the inlay? Eating, chewing, grinding in sleep, tooth quality, etc.
I did a bad job.
Could be just as true. By eating too hard stuff when this inlay is from ceramic. By insisting on ceramic than accepting the more durable and longer lasting gold filling. By eating that hard candy that pulled out the inlay.
Filed under Money, Work by on Dec 19th, 2008. Comment. 
1. Is that true?
It sounds too good to be true.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No. It might happen.
Sad. Disappointed. I try not to do anything that would hurt the chances of it happening. I notice how I am using this thought to protect myself from disappointment. I am in the future. Totally. Every little thing I interpret as proof that it probably won’t happen. The original excitment as the opportunity came up is dead.
Without the thought I’d be in gratitude for the opportunity that has come up. I’d be open. I’d definitely be more in the present moment. I’d come back into my life here and now. I notice what’s around me. Before my surroundings had kind of faded. I wasn’t really aware of them. Interesting. Oh, and I am much happier. The sadness is gone or just faintly there. There is some joy bubbling up. And I am away from making interpretations and assumptions of what it means about me if it doesn’t happen. Yep, much more peaceful.
Turnarounds
It is going to happen.
- Chances have gone from 0 to at least 50 percent. Before the opportunity came up I didn’t even have it in my mind as an option.
- She wouldn’t have brought it up if she had no intention on following through
Filed under Fear and Depression, Money by on Mar 27th, 2008. Comment.
1. Is it true?
Yes. Just one session can be $100 or even $200!!
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No. I know there are other ways like exchanging services with someone who does what I want and who I can offer what I do.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
Frustrated. Discouraged really. Can I only get great help and have wonderful breakthroughs when I have a lot of money?!
My mind wonders to people living on the street, to families that barely make it. They would never be able to grow and work through stuff with professional help. I get sad thinking of the unfairness in the world. How some people are naturally disadvantaged by where they were born.
Boy, that feels heavy. When I think of that I get really sad. Well, there is some gratitude in it too that I am not poor or live on the street. But when I just read the thought again "Professional help is too expensive" I am right back into feeling frustrated and angry. There is also some hopelessness. Some resentment towards the high fees that some professionals charge. And resentment towards ever increasing fees.
I feel that in my shoulders. My face is tense too. I just want to shut down.
4. Who would you be without the thought?
Without the thought the heaviness is lifting some. Oh, and I seem to open up to all the possibilities to find other ways. Wow, it’s like opening a flood gate. I even notice it physically. I was kind of slumped in my chair and now I am sitting straight up. I feel some excitement about becoming creative. Yeah, lots of ideas are coming in.
Wow, what a difference. Let me jot down all those ideas in the turnarounds…
Turnarounds:
Professional support is not too expensive.
- There is the Byron Katie Round Robin. Facilitation with another person that knows the Work. Ok, most are not professional facilitators but hey it’s free. And as long as the other knows the four questions, it WORKS!
- As a coach I have (and I could, actually WILL again) find another coach to coach each other.
- Trading services with other professionals. I could offer facilitation to a massage therapist for example.
Wow, the possibilities are endless. Ooh, and another one just comes to mind. The InquiryFest that QuestionTheMind.com offers. It is unlimited private facilitation for the whole month of December with weekly breakthrough calls and a New Years Eve Celebration call. I remember how valuable that was when I did it last December!
Yeehaa! What a shift in my perception that Work has done!
Filed under Money by on Nov 30th, 2007. 1 Comment.
1. Is it true?
I think so. I think that a lot of people would agree. And I can see how I have believed that.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No. I don’t know what other people think people with a lot of money should do. Maybe I got the idea from hearing a few people’s opinions but by no means do I know it from the majority of people nor do I know if that is REALLY what they believe.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
I’ll answer that from my time as a financial business consultant.
Annoyed. With resistance. With resentment against the people that expect me to pick up the bill. I get harder. Yeah, I am annoyed even though they may not even have said anything. I just despise the attitude. I strike out at them. I think of them as losers.
I also feel bad about myself for not wanting to share. I see myself as a stingy person, a miser. And then I mentally attack them again for "making me feel bad".
How have you lived your life because you believed that thought?
I have wanted to hide how much money I have. And who knows, maybe subconsciously that’s why I left my high-paying job and stopped making money… Wow!
4. Who would you be without the thought?
I would enjoy having a lot of money. I would bathe in it. I would share when I feel moved to. And I wouldn’t if I didn’t. I would express empathy for people with little money. And I wouldn’t see them as expecting me to invite them or help them pay their bills.
That feels very liberating and joyful. Yeah, I could enjoy having a lot of money.
Turnarounds:
People with a lot of money are not expected to pay more.
People with a lot of money are expected to pay less.
People with little money are expected to pay more.
I just want to sit with number 4 for now and come back to the turnarounds later.
Filed under Fear and Depression, Money by on Aug 31st, 2007. 1 Comment.
1. Is it true?
Yes. More money means more help, better health, more fun things to do, more stuff to learn, more opportunities …
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
Well… when I worked as an option trader and also as a consultant, I had a LOT of money. Yes, I did afford a cleaning lady and I did buy nice clothes but even with a lot of money I still had a scarcity mindset and would not spend my money on things like massages, singing lessons, or travelling.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
I get aintsy. I can’t wait for more money to come in. Yeah, I think the theme is hating to wait. I think I am also closed to other options of making life easier. Yeah, I see impossibilities instead of possibilities. I am in the future. I defer the easy/good life to some point in the future.
With the thought: Stuck, waiting for something to happen in the future.
4. Who would you be without the thought?
Without the thought I would be open to possibilities. It actually would be exciting. I could exchange services. "Relief from stressful beliefs" for "Relief from back pain". Wow!
Without the thought: Possibilities and action
Turnarounds:
More money does not make life easier.
- I had much more money than I do right now, and I can’t say that I made my life easier by using that money.
- Not when I am not free to spend it.
More money makes life harder.
- When I made a lot of money, I remembered that unspoken (and sometimes spoken) expecation of me picking up the bill with friends and family.
- When I am not happy with the service I am spending my money on, in that moment of dissatisfaction and having to address it, stop it, or find someone else, my life gets harder.
Less money makes life easier.
Mmh, still thinking of an example…
I might come back to that one later.
Do you know of an example of how less money makes life easier? If so, please share by using the comments box below. I am looking forward to opening my mind. And thank you for that.
Ah! One actually just came to mind:
- I don’t have to worry whether the money spent was worth it and whether it was the best I could have gotten for my money.
Filed under Money by on Aug 23rd, 2007. Comment.
