1. Is it true?
My immediate reaction is "I want that". So yes, I think it is true.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
Actually no. I haven’t stopped to really find out if that is what I want.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
I experience some tightness. It is almost physical. Like I want to grab it. And then the thought hits: "But I can’t have it." "We can’t afford that." I feel frustration. And from there my mind travels to all the reasons we can’t afford it. It travels to the past and from there into the future. I experience worry. Stress. Impatience. Anger at the perceived cause of our finanical situation. It is like a line of dominoes triggered. One leading to another (to fall).
Thinking that I want it but can’t have it makes me want it even more. And the whole domino thought process starts all over again. Just more intense.
Stress, frustration, and anger.
4. Who would you be without the thought?
I would just look at it. I could let it go by. I would stop and ask myself: Do I really want that? And then follow up with: Right now? Do I really want that right now? And can I know that it won’t be there when I am ready to buy it?
Without the thought: Clarity. Peace. Joy. Yes, joy to see that it exists. Joy to know that it will be there for me when I am ready to get it. Peace in that if that is the right thing for me I will get it. No mistake. I am experiencing a lot of peace right now. Amazing!
Turnaround:
I don’t want that.
- Truth is, before I ever knew it existed I had no thought of wanting it. I was perfectly fine without it.
- I have no use for it right now anyway. I still have too many other things going on anyway.
- Not if it means that I would have to give up something else for it. It is not more important.
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1. Is it true?
That might happen. The enormous amounts of attorney fees alone are crazy.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No. I can never know the future.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
Angry and furious at the amount of wasted money in this lawsuit. Savings, a college funds, and a life insurance policy cashed in just to pay the attorney fees. I am getting more and more furious at this waste. I am full of hate and anger at T. and H. for causing all this. I want to hurt them.
When I believe this thought I feel like a victim. Paralyzed. I can only sit and watch it all happen. Nothing I can do. That feels horrible. My shoulders are all tense. I perceive myself as having no control over the situation.
4. Who would you be without the thought?
Without the thought I’d be much more relaxed. I’d be in my business. I would trust. Trust that everything is going to be ok. I would trust that the things happen as they are supposed to happen. I would actually be excited about what’s next. I would remember that it is all FOR me. I might experience gratitude. Gratitude for these extreme experiences that were created just so that I may find peace no matter what the circumstances. Wow! What a change in experiencing the very same situation. My body is relaxed. My shoulders lost almost all tension. Amazing.
Turnarounds:
The lawsuit won’t drive us into bankruptcy.
- Money from all kinds of sources may be pouring in – for all I know it could be happening right now. 
- The lawsuit may turn out in our favor.
- The lawsuit might be settled faster than we anticipate, hence less attorney fees.
The lawsuit will drive us out of bankruptcy.
- The lawsuit may turn out in our favor.
- We get even better about budgeting and that will help us in the future.
- Using "bankruptcy" as a metaphor for thinking, it could be a very "enriching" experience and we’ll have more in a sense of being stronger.
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1. Is it true?
Definitely true. Absolutely 100 % true.
WELL, WHAT WOULD YOU WANT TO BUY?
Flights, the NVC Seminar, retirement fund, health insurance.
Wow, I’m just noticing: I don’t even want all that many things. And I could do all of the above with what I have right now. It’s only when I go into the future of no money coming in that I think I can’t afford it. Wow!
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No.
3. How do you react when you think that thought?
I think small, the way I’ve always thought. Limited. In terms of lack. Of not enough. I see how money runs through my hands. I can’t hold onto it. Desperation. Frustration. But hell, familiar. NOT ENOUGH is written all over, everywhere. Scarcity. Yes, a consciousness of lack. Not enough, not enough. Only focussed on that.
4. Who would you be without the thought?
I’d feel the abundance. I’d realized how stuck in my thinking I am. I would feel free. A totally new feeling. I would relax. Ease up. I’d love to spend. I would see that I have enough. More than I need right now. Plenty for tonight!! Wow, I think I’m just getting a glimpse into a new world!!!
Turnarounds:
I have enough money to be able to afford everything I want to.
- All the things I want right now I could easily afford.
- It’s MY choice to not get them today.
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Belief: Money is an almight force.
1. Is that true?
It seems like it. You’ve got money – you have the power.
- You can BUY people.
- You can solve every problem if you only throw enough money at it.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
I look a Byron Katie. Even people with a lot of money would turn to her for help. And they couldn’t buy her with all the money in the world. Also: Millionairs commit suicide all the time. So, money might make you powerful but not happy.
3. How do you react when you believe this thought?
Small. Very small. Hiding. Not belonging. Making myself small. Having an identity of coming from an inferior country with inferior parents. SMALL. Afraid of the big shots. FEAR of being so powerless. They can do anything to me if they only wanted to.
4. Who would you be without that thought?
I’d be so happy and grateful for having the Work. That is worth more than all the money in this world. Inner peace and freedom is the only thing that brings about true happiness – that’s the ultminate power!
If I don’t need anything from anybody and if I can be happy no matter what the circumstances are – what else is there? What could an almighty millionaire do? NOTHING!
Turnarounds
Money is not an almighty force.
- Can’t buy health.
- Can’t buy happiness.
- Can’t buy love – not true love anyway.
Money is a powerless force.
- On its own it doesn’t do much. I mean what do we want all the money for anyway? Happiness, feeling good about ourselves. Just money won’t do that.
My thinking is an almighty force.
TRUE!
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