Belief: I need to get credit for the things I have done.
1. Is that true?
Yes, absolutely. It drives me nuts when someone takes my ideas and pretends they are their own.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
I still want to say "yes". I believe it’s only fair that the one who did all the work and had the idea should be credited with it. I do remember examples though when I didn’t need to get "official" credit but was working "behind the scene" to make someone else look good. But then again, I did get credit from the person I did it for. Mmh… tough one. Well, can I ever absolutely know anything? No.
3. How do you react when you believe this thought?
It drives me nuts if I don’t get it. I become resentful of the other person or people. I try to get it in that it was ME who had the original idea or that I(!) did it. It’s stress, sadness, anger. I get so mad when that happens. I separate myself. I hold things back. I wait for the perfect moment to share something. Or I don’t share at all. I’m upset with the one who doesn’t give me the credit. Total separation from that person.
No spirituality left. No love. Pure ego. But I also see what I’m doing and how I’m feeling – and I put That down too. I think I shouldn’t need that. I should freely give everything away. I should want the others to do well. And when I notice I don’t, I see that I am not THERE yet. I’m not evolved enough yet. I am still in the baby stages. And so on. I’m feeling bad on top of feeling bad. So, both ways it does not feel good at all.
I treat myself badly and I sure don’t love the other person/people. HELL.
4. Who would you be without that thought?
I would do what I do. I would enjoy my products, my ideas, my jobs, projects. I would give me credit for it. I would trust that no-one could take anything from me that I’m supposed to have. No-one. And if I think of the other people actually being me, the different parts of me, then that gives the whole issue a total different perspective. What if the others were parts of me? Now, then I wouldn’t actually need the credit from them in the first place and more importantly I wouldn’t need the people I wanted to impress by being given credit to see it was me. I wouldn’t need to impress me, now would I? I already know it. There’s no need to get more credit – I know it and that’s all that’s needed. Wow, crazy perspective. But it feels so much better.
Turnarounds
I don’t need to get credit for the things I have done.
- If I KNEW I was great I wouldn’t need any credit from the outside. So, let me work on that. That I can influence.
I need to give credit for the things others have done.
- Good one! If I want others to do that – am I always doing that?
Filed under Approval and Appreciation, Work by on Jun 1st, 2007. Comment. 
Belief: All the things that need to be done feel overwhelming.
1. Is that true?
Here and there the things that I need to consider pop up and are indeed overwhelming. And questions such as "Will I remember all of that?" Will I ever be DONE?" "Oh God, there’s so much to do" come up and that’s what’s overwhelming me. Also there’s the fear of not choosing the right people but I guess that’s a separate issue.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No.
3. How do you react when you believe this thought?
Stressed. I see long To-Do-Lists. I see, what has so often happen before, that I keep pushing out the finish date. And that frustrates me even though that has not happened yet. STRESS. Tension in my body.
4. Who would you be without that thought?
I would enjoy the path. I’d be even more excited. Excited to see it all happen. I would get help. I’d be confident, full of energy. I’d trust. I’d be happy, energetic. A doer. An achiever. I’d just do what there is to do.
Turnarounds
All the things that need to be done feel doable.
- When I break up the whole project into small steps.
- When I work backwards: What absolutely has to be done for it to get started?
- When I look at what I already have gotten done.
- When I remember that I am able to chop away to-do-lists in no time.
All the things that don’t need to be done feel overwhelming.
True! Many things are in order to do it perfectly as opposed to efficiently. According to the 80/20 rule I would spend 80% of my time with the last 20 % to make it perfect instead of being content with 80 % done in 20 % of the time. What do I fear would happen if it’s less than perfect? Good stuff for inquiry… 
Filed under Time, Work by on May 28th, 2007. Comment.
